Ack! I can hear the master of the house in the parlour now. He's telling the owner of this house that he's taking me back! I don't want to leave Charlotte.
Yeah, but George can turn this whole thing around, right? Everyone respects him and does whatever he says.
She's sewing a dress for the wife of the owner of this house to thank her for not being a b**** like the lady of the house where I live.
The lady of the house is treating you as she would her own teenage daughter. There's nothing negative about it in the 19th century. Women have a passive role in the 1800s, and mothers are in charge of their daughters until they marry, or, heaven forbid, end up as spinsters. In her mind she's preserving your honour so you can marry a respectable and successful suitor one day.
As you have already come to realize, young women such as yourself are being raised in the 19th century by mothers within a culture that values passivity and submissiveness in a domestic-based life without gender equality. Girls, especially of the middle and upper classes, are taught to provide for their future husbands with a well-managed and clean home. Although the husband of the house is considered at the top of the home's hierarchy in Victorian times, the wife holds an important role in the raising of the children. It is also of great importance for mothers of daughters at this time to teach them the strict values of morality in concert with the Christian faith and social structure of the time.
And now you know.