Dating in the 19th century

Hey, Amy. I was just thinking about you before you screamed at me.

Obviously I'm wondering about the 19th century dating situation you've found yourself in. I mean, knowing that the master of the house is expecting you to date the fellow who is expecting to date Charlotte the maid (who he thinks is part of the upper class because THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT YOU LED HIM TO BELIEVE), makes me anxious. Whew. 

Fill me in. As a matter of fact, please ... fill us all in.


*heavy sigh*
Okay. The lady of the house talked to me yesterday and said that the guy, you know, the George guy, is a landowner, like it's some crazy amazing thing. Then she said that it would be in my best interest to meet with him again, with a chaperone, before his interest "wanes", whatever that means. 

 And you replied???


Yeah, well what I told him was that I'm from the 21st century and that I'd show him (in more ways than one) what girls in the future are like.
Kidding!
But I did figure that if I needed a chaperone, why couldn't it be Charlotte?
Kinda perfect, right? 

As far as I can see, it's only perfect because Charlotte will then have some time to tell him the truth. That's all she's ever wanted to do - to tell him she's a maid and not the high-society young woman he's been led to believe she is. So now what happens?


Now I send George a letter. The lady of the house said that George's servant will be here to pick it up sometime tomorrow. I've already written it:
Dear George,
Please excuse my handwriting, but this pen and inkwell is insanely hard to use. Thank you for your offer of another meeting. I look forward to seeing you again, along with my chaperone, who I'm sure you'll like because she's unbelievably great to be around, and it's ridiculous how pretty she is. 



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And you realize that George is going to assume that you are the chaperone until you tell him otherwise, right?




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Not at all funny, Amy.
Not at all. 

This upcoming initial dating or courtship ritual you are about to undertake will probably be a simple walk somewhere near the house you live in. It makes sense that the  lady of house is insisting on a chaperone because young women in the 19th century are not allowed to set off on their own.
Courtships in the mid-1800s are often quite short, and the way forward in a relationship normally cumulates with a marriage proposal. And as you are aware by now, unequal marriages between different social classes are basically off-limits. 
Once a gentleman has found a young woman he is interested in courting, there are character requisites he must present. These include treating a lady with the utmost respect, be not too shy or too loud, avoid being rude, be clean in clothes and person, be positive in manner, and never force himself upon a lady.
Once the young woman's parents are convinced the gentleman in question is strictly an upstanding gentleman, private time for the couple will be allowed.